I am borrowing a page from the Book of Saige. Eating the bread, drinking the wine; entering the daunting Confessional. Bless me Father, it’s been never since my last confession. Is it a sin to confess when you’re not Catholic? I know you’re probably not supposed to drink the wine…
1. I shared something on my personal facebook page a few days ago. It went like this:
Marilyn Monroe….the worlds biggest icon! Her tummy isn’t tightly toned, her thighs touch, her arms aren’t skinny, she has stretch marks and her boobs aren’t perky. She is known as one of the MOST BEAUTIFUL women in history. Be confident girls. You are HOT, you are SEXY, you are a Marilyn so do not let any man, media or moment of judgement ever take away your confidence! ♥ EL
2. I write for myself, but I won’t lie. After a year, I have finally started to accumulate more than five sympathy ‘likes’ from supportive friends and my mum on some of my posts…sometimes as much as thirty-four. Yay, me!
Anyway, a person starts to depend on get used to this sort of thing and when one of my pieces only drummed up a mere four this week, it stung. Ah…don’t go running to like it, now. I get it. It blew. It’s okay. Big girl pants glued in place.
3. I want to be published. Don’t we all? However, I’m nothing but talk. I haven’t taken any steps toward making this happen since 2010. I’m ecstatic my blog has me writing regularly, but I’ve also let it distract me from my ultimate goal. Don’t get me wrong. I’m extremely happy here in the blogosphere, but I’ve let it satiate me. Apparently, I want to eat my cake and not have to bake it first.
4. I used to give my house a thorough cleaning every other day and quick wipes and swipes in between. I now give it a wipe n’ swipe every few weeks and a thorough cleaning once a, ehm, year…? Something’s wrong with this picture. If I were working steadily and regularly toward my ultimate goal, this would be understandable, but like I said…
5. We have an extra fridge in our garage and it smells like something died in there. Since it only houses sealed beverages, I’m afraid this might actually be true. I have yet to investigate since my abovementioned yearly cleaning isn’t due for at least another six months.
6. The posts I spend days hours on get less likes that the ones I whip out in hours minutes. I am not sure what this says about my writing or me. If you do, please give me hint.
7. I scraped a smattering of mold off the top of the sour cream last week and let everyone have it. Expiration dates are only suggestions, aren’t they?
8. I am a fully trained and licensed Aesthetician and have, what is probably the worst skincare routine ever. It works for me. Don’t tell anyone.
9. I douse most things in hot sauce or failing that, chili peppers. I may be known to keep one of these items in my purse at any given time, but I never, ever bring my own tea bags. Promise.
10. “Small” might be slightly autobiographical. Just sayin’.
You write exceptionally well, even when you are dissin’ yourself Hazy….get back to the book :).
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What book? ;0)
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I haven’t seen the cat in months. Last time I saw it, was in the gargage…
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Well, you know the rule…he who saw it last…
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I’ve been doing a little self-assessing today. I’ve decided it’s time for some “Spring Cleaning”. But, in true fashion, I decided to start by sprucing up my blog rather than cleaning up my room or, God forbid, writing another scene on my short story trilogy.
God help us. God help us, everyone.
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Ha ha. Sounds (all too) familiar! Oh well. When we are taking our last breath, I hardly think we’ll be wishing we’d cleaned out more closets!
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Oh my friend… bahahah! I love # 7 b/c I was not eating at your house that day… mental note…don’t eat the sour cream at Pips house! I also love #9…..
nice one… when you flying to Maui?
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Next time you’re over, I promise there’ll be no mold in site. Winky, wink. Nah…I save that for family. Friends get the good stuff. LOL.
May 8th!
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Aloha and Mahalo my friend.. Your trip is soon.. Yay.. Be sure to have shave ice and a pineapple a day! So fun!
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I will! Danke Schoen!
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Aloha and Mahalo my friend! Be sure to have a pineapple every day and shave ice… Sounds fun! Yay.
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Aloha!
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LOL, as I sit here browsing other people’s blogs and attempting to post something on my own, I know I really should get cracking on those household chores…but I am really a neatfreak..so I will get to it eventually….a couple of hours or so later than planned.
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Good on you. Wish I was as sure!
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2, 4, and 9. You’re spying on me, right?
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Yes, of course!!
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Ha1 I burned out early with entertaining and keeping the house spotless. I discovered I can live with a little green on the cheese and a little dust on furniture is helping to preserve the wood..
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It’s all overrated, PC. 😛
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About number 2: First, I totally understand. I wrote a story a couple of weeks ago on my fiction blog, directly asking readers for feedback. No one, not one single person, said a thing in the comments that week. It bothered me more than a little until, like you, I remembered I don’t write for ‘likes’.
Two, it’s nice to be supported. I’m envious you get so many ‘likes’. A great number of my posts (on both blogs) top at at 2-3 ‘likes’ at the most. About half of what I write gets nothing. The funny thing is, I talk to friends about it and they assure me they’ve read those very posts and loved them. Loved them, they say. They just didn’t ‘like’ them.
Three, the currency of ‘likes’ is fickle. It just is. I’ve started trying to dole out more ‘likes’, myself, because you have to give if you want to get. But still, fickle. Don’t take it too much to heart.
And, four, you are an amazing writer. Even if you write something no one likes, that isn’t going to change.
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I know. It makes me feel bad…almost like a sell-out that acknowledgement has become so important. But, I don’t want to be a martyr. Writers write to be heard and, I believe, to be well-received. We do hope everyone will appreciate our style, our work, our…hearts.
Likes are definitely fickle, as you say. I find it depends a lot on the time of day I post. Too late at night isn’t ideal, neither is too early in the morning. I’m so sorry you’ve experienced a lack of feedback. You’re a great writer. I’m not sure why some blogs get so much more attention that others. I’ve seen some posts with 300+ likes! The whole thing is definitely a learning process.
I am an advocate of the give to receive mentality, but at the same time, I don’t want someone to come and like mine just because I liked theirs, you know?
Your number four means a lot. :0)
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As usual, good points all. I think we see it the same way, and you’re right: feedback does matter. Writing is communication. Someone has to be listening for half the magic to happen. 🙂
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I think it’s hysterical that Mike mentioned the cat, but wasn’t at all worried about the sour cream… Remember, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. You’re probably just strengthening your family’s immune systems, right? 😉
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I know, right? it’s all good….I’m sure! 😮
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I can so relate to your point about whipping something up and getting tons of commentary vs. spending tons of time crafting a post and hearing crickets. I think writing without expectation or filter appeals to people needing real & relatable.
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Yes, I believe you have the right idea. 🙂
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