Like for a TBH…
The likes, the pokes, the requests, the comments, the followers and our (with any luck and a few brief encounters) overflowing ‘friends’ lists are virtual validation. Whether we admit it or not, to us they’re confirmation that we’re awesome human beings.
They’re our second chance; an opportunity to snatch some of the attention we missed in school, an enabler to hang onto the worldly, well-liked whippersnappers we used to be or a window for reinvention, in case our first draft wasn’t working out.
facebook exists under the guise of passive hobby, but in reality, there’s not much passive about it. Dynamic statuses are written, lively comments are made and shameless self-promotions are flogged. (one day I’ll share my page with you) And it’s all very much the opposite of passive. In fact, one could venture to say that facebook, or should I say, its users, can be downright aggressive.
For a platform that is supposed to be airy-fairy, it can carry the weight of a cinder block. Users preach from their soapboxes, post links and videos to support their stances, tag undesirable photos, type words that would never otherwise be spoken and, since we’re being honest, let’s be honest…being limited, blocked or deleted stings for more than a second. So why should we have it?
Top Ten facebook Flogs
1. Connectivity: It’s invaluable to have familiarity with family and friends you wouldn’t normally see and having it through facebook is different than an email or a phone call. It allows us off-hand inspection of pages. It’s informal and approachable.
2. New Connectivity: “Friending” someone new is fun. Especially when they’re someone we will probably never see in real life ever again. (?)
3. Visualization: Photos, words and personalities come alive. I went to my _ _ high school reunion a while back and I likened it to the figures in a wax museum walking and talking. Creepy…
4. Socialization: facebook allows for casual contact. Little or no commitment, while remaining in the loop can be a huge draw. Yes, sometimes we can be sloths.
5. Events: Users can create or be invited to an event, check out the details, scan the guest list, see who’s replied and whether they are not, maybe or definitely attending, all with a few clicks.
6. Optimization: It enables users to reach a large amount of people all at once, personally, professionally or promotionally. It’s also a podium that can intermingle and showcase all three appropriately. (there are exceptions)
7. Puppy for Sale: People have a need to belong and on facebook, most everyone does. No matter dispositions, idiosyncrasies, or quirks, there’s a place for all to call home. Groupers, gamers and go-getters alike will find their niche amongst the 850 million registered peeps.
8. Information Facilitation: A nice way of calling out the nosy parkers; facebook is a haven for users looking to catch up on the latest (and greatest) happenings in the worlds and minds of others. And of course, it’s there for the taking.
9. As Easy as: anything that’s not hard. It really couldn’t be much simpler to navigate. And, that’s me talking, which means it’s easier than easy.
10. Why not? Overall, it’s just pretty darn amusing.
And, if you managed to stick with me this far, here’s a bonus flog:
11. Control: It’s so very satisfying to delete, ignore or squash a cruddy comment, like the bug that it is. Just sayin’.
*This article is published on Ezine
…another great blog Hazy…
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Thank you!
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I like that it pushes me to talk to people I wouldn’t normally have the courage to talk to. After all, what’s reaching out when its just a post or a quick message? Its truly widened my social circle and has been invaluable since moving abroad in keeping up connections with friends both old and new.
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I agree! 🙂
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I avoided Facebook for a long time, but joined under the guise that it would be “good for my business”. And while yes, it has its uses on the commercial side, I’d totally be lying if I said I didn’t LOVE it personally. For all of the reasons you so eloquently described above…I do find it lets me muse in short form about the little foibles of life! Keep writing A!
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All sarcasm aside, I love it too. 🙂 Thanks for the comment, Alison!
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I have to say I think you may be my soul sister!! Whilst i was brushing my teeth this morning I had the same thoughts about the internet in general. Good or bad? I think it is all about balance and keeping it real. Don’t use it as your life source, but as a little place to visit once and again. It should enhance not define you 🙂
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Haha…nice!
I think, when used appropriately, the internet can be wonderful. Break or define you? Na uh.
Thanks for comment, Teekay. I appreciate it! “Keep it real.” 🙂
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Here, here!!! I couldn’t agree more 🙂
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Love your shmexy new banner photo!!!
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Thanks, Jennifer…someone helped me with the ‘shmexy’ part!
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And to think you left FaceBook at one point! And used to ask me if I “really” had more than 200 friends!
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Yes, I did leave…and for good reason! 😉 And…do you really, for reals, have (I believe the # has jumped since then) hundreds of friends??!
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Everyone on my FB, regardless of if I met them for a fleeting moment in my travels, or if they were one of the many coworkers I’ve had 😉 I would stop and talk to on the street. A project of mine that I started at the beginning of the year is to post on all my friends walls. One or two a day, all the way down the list.
Not everyone responds, but I think everyone must enjoy a random message and a compliment! 🙂
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Everyone enjoys a comment and connection. Way to go Wes! 🙂
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A very private person i am, and my little sister just sat down at my laptop and said now you are on facebook. OK i said and just love the fact that i get to interact with all my overseas family, otherwise wouldn’t have been the same impact.
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That’s the beauty of it, Liz…it can be as private as you want, while still enjoying the connections you choose to make. I completely agree with you on the family aspect too.
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